Updated: Feb 16
We all have our interpretation of what self-care is. We hear what the media tells us, or we listen to it from other blogs. I believe the self-care issues are the questions on whether self cares a want or is self-care what we need. Also, I think we can do this in God’s way. The world tells us to get self-focused, but we need to be cautious as Christians because it leads us down the path of self-righteousness and fleshy desires that will distract our spirit.
I became curious about what my other mom friends thought about this. To my surprise, they all said they don't do it, or they don't know-how. One of my friends said she wants to have fun, but she doesn't even know what that means for herself. My reactions to their statements made me decide to write this blog because it's so important as mothers that our well-being is enacted, not just for others but also for enacted God. What I mean about being well is our mind, body, and soul serving God.
Jesus- is our self- Care:
WE Can learn to self-care from Jesus. Jesus is the true definition of self-care that we can engage and not escape. When we escape, we are still holding on to the baggage. We are running away from it and now becoming healed or restored by it.
When we have a hard day at work or life gets complicated and stressful, we often want to unplug. Unplugging from the noise of society is a good thing. But today’s self-care leaves it at just unplugging. I know I do this a lot; unplugging for me is procrastination. Godly self-care means unplugging, but plugging back into something bigger. When we unplug, we need to plug into our real energy source, who is Jesus.
Jesus leaves the massive crowds to find solitude. In these times, however, Jesus does not twiddle His thumbs. He spends time in prayer. He is resting and getting back the energy they need by going to the father.
Proper self-care means casting our anxieties on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7).
When you feel the urge to unplug, direct your mind to the hope you have in God. Leave your problems there. Be reminded that your issues can be answered with hope. By plugging into this hope, you can find the rest you need.
'Early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left [the house], and went out to a secluded place, and was praying there. ' Mark 1:35 https://my.bible.com/bible/1588/MRK.1.35
Here is a list of the fun things I love to do. Doing self-care, God’s ways.
I call my self-care creative week: This week, I spent time with Jesus doing something fun, exciting, and of course, something God wants to teach me.
Alone time with God:
The very first thing that is important about self-care is spending time with God. Going to the place where you can turn everything off and be in the present. ( Read the blog about creating and healinspace)
When we use self-care to numb our pain, we suppress it. This is harmful and doesn't lead to healing. It leads to destruction. We don’t feel it anymore; we ignore our needs. And what we need is Jesus to heal our pains and our afflictions.
Jesus’ form of self-care never ignored needs—for Himself and the disciples.
In Mark 6:31-32, we see Jesus noticing how the disciples hadn't eaten because they were serving the crowds. He calls them to follow Him and refuel themselves with some rest, which is what they needed.
Also, Jesus made it a top priority to have self-care- spending time with Heavenly Father. “But the news about Jesus spread even more. Many people came to hear Jesus and to be healed of their sicknesses, but Jesus often slipped away to be alone so he could pray.”
Luke 5:15-16 NCV https://www.bible.com/105/luk.5.15-16.ncv
“At that time, Jesus went off to a mountain to pray, and he spent the night praying to God. The next morning, Jesus called his followers to him and chose twelve of them, whom he named apostles:”
Luke 6:12-13 NCV https://www.bible.com/105/luk.6.12-13.ncv
Yes, dance is my number one favorite thing to do. I put on my favorite music, and I would just MOVE. I do this alone and sometimes will record it or write about how I was feeling while dancing. If dancing, not your things. Just move, find a workout plan that best fits you. If you are expecting, here some recommendations: Barre/ pilates, Christian yoga, https://www.theyogaabbey.com/ I follow Carolina Willaims on youtube. I love her creative authentic style about bring God’s word alive on the mat.
This can be fun and enjoyable; you just have to try new things and work best. Walking and biking barre, pilates, yoga are my top favorite to do because it’s not too intense on my body. I know some moms you love kickboxing and swimming. Find what is best for you; this means you have stepped out comfort zone and try it; if this doesn’t work, there always something else.
Jumpstart Your Day: Prayer Journal Amazon.com This journal is so excellent, and it helps me to see when God wants my work on something or when my prayers are answered.
This is my everyday go-to. Suppose our children have the time and permission to color. You can too! These are adult Christian coloring books that you can purchase at low cost or find a pdf version online for free. I love this because some of them have scripture that you can color in, and when you’re done, place them in unique places so you can remember that scripture. Also, FYI - stash away excellent gel pens, color pencils, or markers from your children. :). This might cost a little more, but it’s worth it. I have a significant gel pen collections, and it offers limits to anyone to use because of its mommy coloring time! Lol.
Hang out with Friends:
this one here must be the most difficult for my mom’s friends because of scheduling or surrounding yourself with good friends. First, I suggest spending time mapping out a schedule. Schedule a day with one friend to do something fun. Have a bible study together, work out together, or even color, etc. (Check out my Pinterest ideas with friends). You will enjoy these memories, and it will also help you in times of need.
If finding friends is a little bit challenging, then you have to put yourself out there. Ask your church community. Find some spiritual advisor, someone who is in alignment with your spiritual beliefs. Christian Facebook groups helped me find good friends.
Exploring a new place
Take the time to explore new places. These can be different gardens, museums, parks, or libraries. You will find that when we are, God is putting us in a new environment. He wants our full attention. I discover that I will speak to me the most and give me ideas about my business. If you are struggling to find the time, Can’t find a baby sitter or there just so much going on. WHat my family I did over the summer is we took trips to different parks in different towns with the kids. It was a great idea since everything is closed at this time. My husband will bike ride for about 30- 45 minutes while I watch our kids, then we switch. I would walk or sit on a bench alone time about 30-45 minutes. We spent most of our afternoons in the park, and We were able to balance it out.
Extra Resources For Self Care
These are the extra things I found useful. The podcast that I listen to during the day or night is Put God first Tea and Devotions with Minister La Tanyha
I love meditation. Especially Scirputural Meditations. Meditating on God’s words builds up my confidence, and it keeps me focus on him here in my meditation for mom’s series that I will love you to listen to and be blessed by. https://www.healinspace.com/meditations
By Khadijah S.